Christians Should Celebrate the Same-Sex Marriage Ruling

Those who refuse to celebrate are those who refuse to see anyone as greater victims than themselves.

For those who support gay marriage, including many Christians, yesterday's Supreme Court decision forcing all states to recognize it is a huge win. I expect there will be people marrying on Halsted Street during tomorrow's Pride Parade in Chicago as they celebrate the rights they fought for so long to have.

But not everyone will be celebrating. Over 40,000 people have signed a pledge to defend traditional marriage at any cost, including civil disobedience. A coalition of African-American pastors has also promised that they will not obey what they deem as "an unjust law."

These are people who feel cornered by culture. Not only are the moral standards they grew up with slowly eroding away, they sense that their rights to their convictions are eroding away as well. And while I understand this defensive posture, I think it fundamentally misunderstands why gay people want to be married.

Gay marriage is not about redefining marriage. It's not trying to take what God said or what the Constitution supposedly said and make it fit a progressive agenda. It couldn't even if it wanted to. If God defined marriage, then nothing the state decides can change that. Marriage is a covenant or sacrament (or whatever you want to call it) between the couple and God, and consummated by sex, not a court.

That means it has absolutely no bearing on any other marriages. You don't have to a get divorce because, under a new definition, yours might no longer valid. Your marriage will remain exactly the same before God and before the state. Which is exactly the point.

Gay marriage is simply about legal rights. All they want are the same benefits that we give men and women in a civil union. State benefits. not religious ones. God didn't co-sign your right to have power-of-attorney over your partner, the United States government did. God doesn't care that your state-certified marriage license grants you certain benefits because that's not what marriage is about.

Marriage is about the mystery of the incarnation and the joining of two into one. It's a picture of how God desires to relate to us, not a temporal benefits package. I'm sure some hope for this, but most gay marriage advocates aren't seeking the church's approval for their unions (as if they had any legal recourse to do so). Most are just hoping to end the discrimination.

If you have any gay friends, do yourself a favor and ask them what it was like when they came out. How did their family, friends, and community react? For all of the bemoaned progress made by the "militant gay agenda," LGBT kids are still largely at risk of not just ridicule but outright assault in schools across the country. That's why they want rights. That's why they need rights.

The church has only fed this need. It's one thing to disagree with someone and another to purposely discriminate. If you can bake a cake for an abuser or a predator, you can certainly bake one for a gay person who probably doesn't even have a criminal record. You're not endorsing the union any more than Jesus endorsed drunkenness at Cana. He understood that loving your neighbor didn't have to mean supporting everything about them but it did mean not discriminating against them.

That's why we should celebrate: because this country finally outlawed the discrimination of gay people. No one who claims to be loving--no one who claims Christ--wouldn't want to dance at this news. No matter what your imagination tells you about the trauma kids growing up in gay homes will have, nothing is more traumatic than for those kids to grow up in a world that despises them for who they are. 

We're not the target here. Christians are not the ones being discriminated against because we still get to be who we are. We have always been able to do so and until the Constitution is rewritten, we always will:
Religions may continue to advocate with utmost, sincere conviction that, by divine precepts, same-sex marriage should not be condoned. The First Amendment ensures that religious organizations and persons are given proper protection. (Obergefell v. Hodges, pg 27).
It's time to stop throwing a pity party for ourselves and be happy that those to whom we never showed pity no longer need it.

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  1. I agree with your article I left a comment on that sex equal marriage, but I want to expand on one of the comments I made. I said it's not possible for two people of the same sex to be married because they can't have real sex. On top of this, the Bible says homosexuality is an abomination, and that they are doing acts against nature and they will receive the reward for their sins. That's terrifying if you think about what Scripture is saying. Scripturally speaking God has given no rights at all to gay couples, including They don't deserve any of the benefits given to married couples and it is their agenda to drag society down to their putrid level. Yes, God does love them, but He does not love their sin.


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